The Myth of the Alpha and Beta Man Is Keeping You Stuck

You'll notice in human social groups, the men concerned with being Alpha are exhibiting many of the Beta traits of a teenage wolf who hasn't quite found his footing in the world and settled into his own wolf pack. You'll see him covertly and overtly attempting dominance over other men and attempting to gain the favor of all women around him.

Often times, he doesn't even care if she's attractive. He just wants to know she likes him. To know that she could be sexually available to him.

The Alpha pretending Beta male never quite grows up. He's unsettled, he's unhappy, he hasn't taken control of himself or his life and complains that things aren't working out the way they should be. The Beta seems to not understand the concept of personal ownership.

Betas are often the first ones to call themselves Alpha, and are quick act out this shallow archetype in an attempt to hide their true nature, oftentimes labeling other men as Beta so as to position themselves higher on the dominance hierarchy.

In contrast, ironically, the true human alpha really isn't concerned with such terms as alpha and beta because he's actively transcended the need for dominance displays.

He simply is.

Because he's settled into his compelling vision He can lead with benevolence. He has a quiet self-assurance, confidence as if he's already arrived at where he's going. He leads by example and has a calming effect to those around him. They can feel safe in his presence because he promotes cooperation and community.

In contrast, the Beta promotes discord in a very "lord of the flies"-type of way. People don't feel safe around him, and women find him unstable because dominance is more important to him than love.

To truly become "True Alpha" as a human, it will require you to do more than simply "crush it" at the gym or overcome your competitors. It requires you to quietly and quite seriously sit down and take extreme ownership of your particular situation and decide to make things different and to make things better.

To lay down your competition with other men around you and rest into who you actually are. To not be what a woman wants you to be, or anybody wants you to be, but to settle into your own unapologetic true self.

It requires a lot of personal constraints. It requires you to stop tussling and playing with the alpha pretending betas and step out of the hierarchy completely, to think for yourself, and unapologetically embody what your compelling vision is.

Betas do things that emulate Alpha nature, thinking that it's the external that gives them success or attracts a woman. You'll see them obsess over money, dress stylishly, have a chiseled physique, or being dominant over other men hoping that others will recognize them as grown men, as good men. But inside they are very insecure and still looking for permission to be themselves.

They become defensive because they are fodder for the real men, who scoff at pick-up, or the overly stylish man, or the arrogant man who's full of hubris and money.

True Alphas do have the ability, and even the desire to be aggressive at times, but exercise restraint because they realize the control isn't necessary. Alpha pretending Betas feel they must gain control of the external world because they don't want to face their internal lack of control.

The True Alpha realizes that control comes from within and that real power lies in constraint.

True Alphas, are unconcerned with the labels Alpha and Beta.